Joy - Our Relationship
Joy had a profound influence on my life over the last twenty-one years. She brought with her Neal and Quinlynn, who were 5 and 3 when I met them, whom I learned to love as if they were mine from the start. Joy and I had a daughter named Kauai, the absolute love of my life, who taught me to love without cause, condition or expectation.
We had a tumultuous relationship—when what I wanted in life was to live the rest of my life in serenity and peace. But, because of the children, I knew happiness like I’d never known before, as a dad. Following are documents that reveal Joy’s actions and words that led to my situation. I will only deal in facts—any thoughts I have on a matter will be expressly presented in that manner. You are free to formulate your own opinions on who Joy is through her behavior before, during and after my incarceration through court transcripts, police reports and official documents.
EVIDENCE
A.Police report:“Joy thought he had relatives in San Diego… not even sure if they were true relatives… he might be paying people to act like his relatives.” (We went to my dad’s wedding where there were 100 guests—did I pay them all?) Later she stated: “He had two brothers and a father in the San Diego area…”
B. Thought her mother was a whack job and wasn’t fond of her overall. Hoping to get info on the case for the book she was writing. She’d make money like Amber Frye did on the Scott Peterson case.
C. Acting like a double agent, tried to get info from husband when talking to him. Hoped to make money on the book. Was planning to write the book even before the murders.
D. Sent money to her mom regularly so she could leave husband. Wanted to move to Sacramento, divorce, and take the proceeds. When house was bought he promised to pay back the money he borrowed and put her on title.
E. She was surprised to find out that he had taken $90,000 out of the house.
F. Prosecutor: “When she tried to sell the house there was a second mortgage taken out… taken out without her knowledge.” (SEE G, H, I, J) POLICE REPORT: Joy: He bought the house in Hemet two months before their marriage and took fourteen thousand dollars she made from the sale of her own house. She was angry that he owned all the assets—house, cars, boats. She thought if she left she would live in a box under a bridge. (My house was bought on 10/01/03. Hers was sold around 12/4/03, making it impossible for her to give me money from the proceeds of her sale.)
G. Deed dated 10/01/03 to Joseph Cua, an unmarried man
H. Lender required deed: “Not a change of ownership” “This conveyance establishes sole and separate property of a spouse” signed by Joy Cua and notarized 10/28/05
I. I paid off two of the charge cards she had been using and gave her a check for $4,500 to take care of some of her debts. (check endorsed 10/28/03 by Joy).
J. After my arrest I transferred ownership via grant deed on 6/26/06 to sell the house so she could use the proceeds for expenses.
K. She deeded back the house to me on 12/27/06 because the market had gone bad and the house wouldn’t sell. (Foreclosed on in February of 2007)
L. Default Judgment of Dissolution: Joy claimed that I removed $90,000 of the equity of the community home before its foreclosure and received that property. The court ordered that I pay an equalization payment of $44,575 to Joy. I was not present because I wasn’t notified of the hearing by Joy as required by law. (Seventeen years later she posted that her psychopath second husband caused her to work 90 hours a week to pay off our marital debt. The house was foreclosed on, all my credit card debt were charge-offs in my name, and no mention of any owed debt on any papers filed with the court.) (However, she did take funds from four of my cards.)
M. Joy sent REQUEST TO ENTER DEFAULT knowingly to the wrong address in Redwood City, filed on 10/26/09.*
* I didn’t find out about the default dissolution and the terms involved until a year later when I contacted the court clerk on another matter.
N. Proof of her knowing my current address in San Quentin, where I had been since 1/3/09, is a note and envelope she sent to San Quentin on March 9, 2009.
O. She and the prosecutor claimed that I had been living two lives—cheating on her. This document shows that I had filed for divorce on 9/21/04.
R. Interview with next door neighbor in Hemet: “He’s guilty because his DNA is everywhere” (as told to the media by the prosecution upon my arrest - tests were still being done during trial 2.5 years later). She’d write a book, go on tour, go on talk show circuit; she’d be compensated for the 16 million she claimed I was to have gotten from the Wagners’ will.
P, Q. Altura Credit Union statements: (The only checking act she used) for June, 2005 shows payment to Yahoo personals. May, 2006 (month before my arrest) shows payment to Match.com.
S. Interview cont.: Joy’s mother told neighbor that Joy’s claims of abuse by her first husband never happened. Joy’s writing two books about the Wagner case. When her three daughters babysat for Joy, she was always late. Had one daughter take pictures of her for internet. Admitted to daughter she was dating. Felt Joy Cua was unstable, repeatedly contradicted herself.
T. In July of 2010 (4 yrs after my arrest) she filed for Relief from Domestic Abuse in Iowa court (I was in CA). Case dismissed when she didn’t show up.
U. Joy - Our Relationship
While I was quite enamored with Joy at the outset, that changed after a while. We split three times during our relationship. It was clear that she was with me because I could support her and her children. I was actually OK with that because I loved Neal and Quinlynn, and didn’t want to abandon them to Joy, who openly expressed her dislike for them for ruining her life.
She once posited that we should seek professional help to work things out. I told her that we had the intellect to work out our problems if we’d communicate and make the effort; plus, I told her that I knew that she would just quit if she was told something she didn’t like. We did see two counselors a year apart. She dropped out after two sessions both times.
She once made it a point to tell me that she didn’t care about living in a nice house or having the nice things we had; she just wanted me. I was a pretty good salesman for thirty years (commercial real estate) and read people very well. She made that statement like she was acting a part (probably something she saw on TV) — I knew that she was insincere; but again, I had the kids to think about. I bought my house before our marriage, and would have put her on title and on the loan; but doing so would have resulted in a one point increase in the interest rate because she had awful credit. I let her use two of my credit cards with the caveat that she would make the payments on them. I was shocked at one point when the interest on some of my credit increased dramatically. I discovered that she went over limit on one card and missed payments on both. On one occasion she went on a tirade because she wasn’t an owner on the house (Never a mention of the money she received from the sale of her former house); she ended up on the entry floor face down, kicking out and pounding the tiles with her fists. This scared all three kids, so I took them to the playground to take their minds off of what had happened. Afterwards, when I took them for ice cream, Neal (7 yrs) told me that he and Quinlynn understood that their mom was not with me, and they weren’t upset because they knew they would live with us forever.
Neal and Quinlynn once stayed with me for a week in Burlingame, while Joy took my daughter, Kauai to stay with her boyfriend in Carlsbad. Along with my then girlfriend, Tracey, we went to movies, Dave and Buster’s, Golden Gate Park, and numerous restaurants. They took a liking to Tracey and they liked them back equally. Quinlynn actually said to Tracey, “I wish you were my mom.” Tracey, seeing how much the kids and I loved each other told me that she’d be OK with it if I ever wanted to legally adopt them — which was profound because she never thought she’d want kids.
On many occasions Joy did and said things that were jaw-dropping to me. On one occasion, having taken a flight from Oakland to Ontario, I invited Joy and the kids to have lunch with me at the spaghetti factory, one of their favorite places. When I got there Joy took me aside to tell me that she was leaving me — she’d seen the envelope that was in the glove box of the Aviator marked DNA–Kauai, and couldn’t believe that I thought that our daughter, Kauai, wasn’t mine. Since my daughter was the center of my existence, I couldn’t believe that Joy thought I doubted her paternity. When we were at a mall, the fire department was swabbing for DNA and fingerprinting kids for identification if something like an abduction happened.
I knew that I was no longer committed to the relationship when on one occasion she was supposed to meet the kids and me at a restaurant near our gym after her workout about 6 p.m. Since she wasn’t at the restaurant and it was a buffet, we started without her. After an hour and a half she hadn’t shown, so we left, then drove by the gym. Through the windows I saw that she was talking to a guy in the lobby. Apparently, he was more important than her family. A few months later he showed up at an open house party we had, the only person I didn’t know. After one of our reconciliations, she told me that she was scared because that same guy was leaving messages on her office phone, playing one for me: “I know you’re back with Joseph, but maybe we could still live together?” Another time she denied seeing one of her coworkers during one of our splits, which her mom had told me about. I didn’t care that she had; I just wanted to see if she could be truthful.